[I received an electronic review copy of this book from Netgalley and Graydon House in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.]
Summary
After all those years away, it only takes one phone call to pull Lindy back home.
It’s great timing. She’s temporarily homeless and jobless. And her mother needs her. Apparently she’s had a stroke – not that anyone told Lindy. And her mom’s also having memory issues – another surprise.
The cop who calls for her mom – and old high school… friend – tries to excuse Lindy’s sister, Delia, for not passing any of this news along. She’s been busy with the new baby – something else Lindy knows nothing about. Well, it has been 17 years since they last spoke.
But now Lindy is back. And Delia does have her hands full with the family business (that was supposed to go to Lindy), their mom, her rebellious teen and a newborn. So Lindy can step in, help out, carry some of the load. But her return to the family could dredge up a lot of old history the McAvoy women have swallowed and ignored for decades. Will their secrets survive Lindy’s return home?
Review
Wow, this was good. It took me awhile to warm up to Delia, but I clicked with Lindy and her mom and Delia’s teen daughter Brin quickly. Watching these four women dance around each other was fascinating. And while it was obvious the history and the secrets would be significant, the author held onto them for a good while, letting us get to know the women on their own. There are several excellent passages about secrets and dealing – or not dealing – with emotions. They felt therapeutic. If I was reading this for a book club, these would be the passages I would mark and want to talk about with a group.
Even before the secrets are told, the reader can see the role each person plays in the family – the buttons they push, the interpersonal patterns that have been at work for decades. But this isn’t a dry or navel-gazing sort of story. There’s activity and movement to keep you engaged while the emotional work is being done. It’s so well written – I really enjoyed this!
Discussion questions at the end make this great for book clubs. Don’t read the questions first in order to avoid spoilers. I will give a TRIGGER WARNING but won’t give details to avoid spoiling the story, but if you have sensitivities for what you read, go into this one with a pinch of caution. (Some language)
The Chestnut Challenge – [I received a review copy of this from the publisher. All opinions are my own.] This is book 4 in the Nocturnals series starring three friends – Tobin the pangolin, Bismark the sugar glider and Dawn the fox. In this story, the friends are playing a checkers-like game called Chestnuts when they meet a chinchilla named Chandler who says he is a Chestnuts champion. But is Chandler really that good at the game, or is he a cheater? This was a solid story about dealing with cheating among friends. I also liked learning a little about these different animals in the backmatter. Rating: ♥♥♥½
A Sea Otter to the Rescue – Part of the Tails from History series, this tells the story of Toola, a five-year-old sea otter rescued by a California aquarium in 2001. The aquarium also rescued a baby otter. The staff knew pups raised by humans don’t do as well when they are returned to the wild. They introduced the pup to Toola, and she treated him as if he was her own pup. She taught him to swim and eat and groom himself like otters do. And that pup did so well back in the wild, he had a family of his own. Toola ended up raising 12 rescued pups – and other aquariums used the same system to help rescue other pups. Kids can read all about Toola and the impact she had on orphan pups and other environmental issues for otters. This was a delight to read – cute illustrations and an engaging story! Rating: ♥♥♥♥½
The Complete Enneagram – I have started this one but I haven’t gotten too far yet. I picked this up because I want to learn about the subtypes. There are three subtypes for every Enneagram type. And in a teaching I heard recently, the instructor pointed out that it can be hard to zero into your type because of the variations within the subtypes – one might be the stereotypical description, but the other two might be nuanced and different enough that you can’t find yourself within the type if you fit one of those. So I am going to dig into this more this summer/fall. I recently heard a teaching from the author, and I enjoyed it.
The Enneagram of Eating – I have started this one, too, this year, but haven’t finished yet. I like the idea of these books that take each of the types and show how the type – in health and in some of the lower places – can interact with this topic. This author will have a book about the Enneagram and sex later this year.
Millenneagram – I recently discovered Hannah Paasch on Twitter, and I had to pick up her book! She has a sassy, irreverent style, and I wanted to see how that impacted her take on the Enneagram. I’m going to do a full review of this soon, but for now I will say this is both a fresh and a foul take on the Enneagram. There is a LOT of swearing in this book, so if that will bother you, skip this one. But if you can get past that, don’t miss out on this fresh look at the 9 types. I loved this! Rating: ♥♥♥♥♥
Spiritual Rhythms for the Enneagram – The three resources I have finished this year have all been spectacular, but this one rises to the top of the list for me. Each type is covered in probably 20 pages of material. Each chapter is laid out in the same order so if you want to check something for every type, it is easy to find. This focuses not only on understanding the type but also spiritual practices to be the healthiest you can be. I especially enjoyed the emphasis on triads – each type is a mix of 3 types that make up a triangle on the map. And we can learn to use the other two parts of our triad to be more balanced. The whole thing was brilliant, and it is a resource I will go back to over and over and over again! Rating: ♥♥♥♥♥
The Art of Typing – This is a gorgeous resource! I love the layout of this. But it is a niche resource. This is what I would recommend to someone who either can’t distinguish their type because they are vacillating between a few or for professionals who work with people on the Enneagram a lot. This gives a set of three questions (different questions for each pairing) to each of two numbers and shows how the numbers would answer those questions differently. It’s brilliant for learning differentiation and the nuances between types. Rating: ♥♥♥♥♥
